Dear nancy
Happy Couple by: Valerie Mecha
Dear Nancy,
How can I make my girlfriend happy?
-Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Ah, the age old question, how to make a woman happy. Lucky for you, I am a girl, and I have the inside scoop as well as a couple of ideas on how to make your girlfriend happy.
1. Listen
If your girlfriend is talking on and on about something, don’t zone out! It is likely that the topic she is discussing is something she feels passionate about and is something she wants to share with you. It’s disappointing when someone doesn’t listen to what you have to say. Be an active listener when she talks. An active listener fully concentrates on the speaker, and tries to understand what he/she is saying, responds to what is being said and then remembers what was said. Also take mental notes whenever she mentions something she likes or something that makes
her happy so you can surprise her with it in the future.
2. Small Surprises
We are often pleased by the little things that you can do. We don’t need big demonstrations of affection like buying expensive gifts, the small things can make us way happier. For example you could buy your girlfriend her favorite chocolate bar and surprise her with it when she is having a rough day. Give her genuine compliments to boost her self confidence. Don’t compliment her on every little thing she does, just sprinkle a few here and there. Nothing's better than a surprise visit to her house; sometimes just being there can brighten up a girl’s day. However, don’t show up if you think you aren’t welcome. It’s a good plan to ask what she is doing or what she plans on doing that day before you show up.
3. Make Time
Even if you’re too busy to hang out, we’d appreciate a simple text to show you’re thinking of us. You have a packed weekend? Hang out after school for a study date. Though studying may not be the most exciting thing in the world, at least you’re spending time together. Also, it’s a good idea to plan at least one date by yourself. It’s nice when someone else takes care of all the planning so she can just sit back and relax and enjoy what you have in store for her. Spending time together is another easy peasy way to make your girlfriend happy.
If you run out of date ideas, there are plenty of them on the internet, just google it!
4. Gifts
If your girlfriend only cares about what you can buy her, then you might want to reevaluate your relationship. However, we still like it when you take the time out of your day and the money out of your pocket to pick out something special just for us. (Do not feel obligated to do this all the time, once in awhile is okay for us.) When buying gifts and deciding what you want to do for holidays or birthdays, it’s important to consider your girlfriend’s feelings. If she’s not comfortable with the hearts and roses type of relationship, you have to accept that. Nothing is more uncomfortable than being pressured to be comfortable with something that makes you uncomfortable.
5. Communicate
Lastly, it’s important to keep an open line of communication, whether it be talking in person or online. Your girlfriend should feel safe expressing her feelings with you, and I’m sure she would appreciate you communicating your feelings to her. Just talking helps with better understanding each other and ultimately results in a happier relationship.
These are just a few, simple ways to make your girlfriend happy.
I hope this helped!
Sincerely,
Nancy
How can I make my girlfriend happy?
-Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Ah, the age old question, how to make a woman happy. Lucky for you, I am a girl, and I have the inside scoop as well as a couple of ideas on how to make your girlfriend happy.
1. Listen
If your girlfriend is talking on and on about something, don’t zone out! It is likely that the topic she is discussing is something she feels passionate about and is something she wants to share with you. It’s disappointing when someone doesn’t listen to what you have to say. Be an active listener when she talks. An active listener fully concentrates on the speaker, and tries to understand what he/she is saying, responds to what is being said and then remembers what was said. Also take mental notes whenever she mentions something she likes or something that makes
her happy so you can surprise her with it in the future.
2. Small Surprises
We are often pleased by the little things that you can do. We don’t need big demonstrations of affection like buying expensive gifts, the small things can make us way happier. For example you could buy your girlfriend her favorite chocolate bar and surprise her with it when she is having a rough day. Give her genuine compliments to boost her self confidence. Don’t compliment her on every little thing she does, just sprinkle a few here and there. Nothing's better than a surprise visit to her house; sometimes just being there can brighten up a girl’s day. However, don’t show up if you think you aren’t welcome. It’s a good plan to ask what she is doing or what she plans on doing that day before you show up.
3. Make Time
Even if you’re too busy to hang out, we’d appreciate a simple text to show you’re thinking of us. You have a packed weekend? Hang out after school for a study date. Though studying may not be the most exciting thing in the world, at least you’re spending time together. Also, it’s a good idea to plan at least one date by yourself. It’s nice when someone else takes care of all the planning so she can just sit back and relax and enjoy what you have in store for her. Spending time together is another easy peasy way to make your girlfriend happy.
If you run out of date ideas, there are plenty of them on the internet, just google it!
4. Gifts
If your girlfriend only cares about what you can buy her, then you might want to reevaluate your relationship. However, we still like it when you take the time out of your day and the money out of your pocket to pick out something special just for us. (Do not feel obligated to do this all the time, once in awhile is okay for us.) When buying gifts and deciding what you want to do for holidays or birthdays, it’s important to consider your girlfriend’s feelings. If she’s not comfortable with the hearts and roses type of relationship, you have to accept that. Nothing is more uncomfortable than being pressured to be comfortable with something that makes you uncomfortable.
5. Communicate
Lastly, it’s important to keep an open line of communication, whether it be talking in person or online. Your girlfriend should feel safe expressing her feelings with you, and I’m sure she would appreciate you communicating your feelings to her. Just talking helps with better understanding each other and ultimately results in a happier relationship.
These are just a few, simple ways to make your girlfriend happy.
I hope this helped!
Sincerely,
Nancy