As a senior, everyone seems different. I am drifting apart from my friends, and I am not sure if it really matters. How do I deal with it? Is it good or bad?
Separation from others happens, and sometimes there is nothing we can do about it. Many people go through this throughout their lives whether they just lose interest, their views change or the two people start to hang out with others. There are more reasons than this to why a person could drift apart from friends, or just one friend in particular, and there are many ways to deal with the separation or to try to mend the relationship.
When you drift apart from a friend, it's never easy, although you may not realize this in the beginning. You may just one day realize that you’re talking less to this person than “normal” or aren't as close as you used to be. You can blame it on yourself or on the other person's loss of interest in you or you can get to the root of the problem. There are many ways that make drifting apart from a person so easy to do and it is never any one person's fault.
There are two main things that you can do when separation from a friend occurs. You can try to get to the root of the problem and try to salvage the friendship. The other thing you can do is to leave well enough alone if you feel that the friendship is not worth fighting for and salvaging. There are some ways that you can go about salvaging a friendship if you want it to work and return to normal.
If you want to salvage a friendship, then you first have to get back in touch with that person. A good way to start is to just try to say hi to the person in the hallway or if you have class with them try to be partners for a class project. This can help you become familiar with the person again. The next thing to do is try to do some of the things that you used to do whether it's movie night or hanging out in the park. The simplest things can make all the difference. Continue to do all of things that you used to do and eventually you might get back to being friends. You also have to communicate with each other because you don't want the friendship to go back to being nothing. Communication is very important in any relationship.
When fixing it trying to mend a friendship you have to face the possibility that the other person dent want to fix the friendship and that you fell apart for a reason. It can be out of your control when the other person doesn't want to to fix the friendship. You have to communicate with the person to see if they feel like there is
Sometimes no matter how hard you try or what you do, some things can't be fixed. Sometimes a friendship is not meant to be fixed no matter what you do. Before trying to mend a friendship, ask yourself if it's worth it and how you two fell out of the friendship. Make sure that it is worth saving because you don't want to put yourself into a situation where it can happen again.
Separation is never an easy thing to go through but it happens to everyone eventually. Everyone deals with separation in their own way. Whatever that person chooses, it should be what is what's best for them. No one but you can choose whether the situations like these are worth fighting for.
Halloween is just around the corner and I still don't know what I am going to dress up as. I wish there was a simple way to narrow down all my choices. Please write back if you have any ideas. Thanks!
I understand how hard it can be to choose a costume. There are so many possibilities to consider; designing your own original costume, coordinating corresponding costumes with a friend, or matching up with a group of friends. I do have some ideas on how to choose the perfect costume every single time, without repeating.
What I always think of first is: What interests me? By asking yourself that question, you start narrowing down your choices. Am I going to dress up like a celebrity? A piece of candy? Am I going to make my own costume or am I going to just buy it? All of these questions begin to circle through your mind allowing you to ponder your choices and consider the latest trends.
You could simply ask those around you for inspiration. Having another’s point of view could be a major help. Sometimes the big issue is having to close of an eye to the “project”. It is always good to ask for an outsider’s point of view. Another member of the Husky Howler team, Cheyenne, actually created a DIY on halloween costumes you can make yourself. If you are interested in checking it out, check out her piece under the special features section here on The Husky Howler.
Another tip I would suggest would be to take this quiz. It gives you good costume ideas once you get the results. Even you don’t use the idea it gives you, it helps you with deciding if you want to dress up with a costume similar to the one offered. It also provides follow up links that offer help in picking out the perfect Halloween costume. Hope this helped you out! Have a great Halloween!!
Here is the link: http://www.seventeen.com/life/life-quizzes/a27465/halloween-costume-quiz/